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Your First Boyfriend Should Have These 7 Traits ...

By Sabrina

The excitement of dating can sometimes eclipse your common sense. But your first dating experience should be a good one! Before you jump into a relationship, make sure he has these 7 traits.

1 Patience

A good first boyfriend should be patient in every way. He shouldn’t have a short temper and yell at you all the time. He also shouldn’t rush you to do anything you’re not ready for. An impatient guy is bad news, especially for your first boyfriend.

2 Humor

A guy with a good sense of humor is so much more fun to be around than a guy who’s serious all of the time. You should be able to laugh together, make jokes with and about each other, and always leave your dates with a smile on your face. If he takes everything too seriously, he may start draining your energy and bringing your mood down instead of making you feel better.

3 Respect

If you notice that he’s disrespectful to anyone—his parents, teachers, or peers— know that the time will come when he disrespects you and your family, too. You shouldn’t have to earn his respect—he should just be a person who respects your right to privacy, space, time, etc.

4 Positivity

You’ll be amazed by how much he rubs off on you. You might think you can compartmentalize your life, but if he’s a negative person, you’ll slowly become less positive too. Make sure he has an optimistic outlook on life and doesn’t bring you down.

5 Trusting

If you're going to enter a relationship with someone, there needs to be a certain level of trust between both of you. He shouldn't assume that as soon as you leave a date with him, you're running off to see another guy. If he doesn't trust you, he may become more possessive and controlling overtime. At first, it may seem cute and protective, but be alert to make sure it doesn't escalate.

6 Content

Before you start dating, he should already be happy and content in his own life. You shouldn't simply be filling a void to make him feel better about himself. If he relies on you for happiness, he may eventually become needy and then greedy, always demanding more of your time and attention. You should both feel content before you begin dating, or else you'll become each other's crutches, which will only make a future breakup even harder to handle.

7 Caring

Your first boyfriend should definitely be caring. By that, I don't necessarily mean protective, because you’re your own woman and you don’t need some teenage boy you just started dating to protect you. But at the same time, he should care about your wellbeing and do his best to keep you happy and comfortable.

The moral of the story: don’t settle! It’s not like you’re only willing to date a genius millionaire. Looking for these traits doesn’t make you picky or difficult to please— it just means that you respect and love yourself enough to want a guy who does the same. What other traits do you think a young lady’s first boyfriend should have?

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