Do your parents treat you like a child? Do they question your every move? As you become older, you might want more independence and freedom. But sometimes, it's hard for parents to let go. This is a problem many youths face, but there are ways to convince your parents to give you more responsibility.
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1. Act Older than Your Years
If you're 16 years old but you act like a 10-year-old, don't expect your parents to give you more responsibility. The truth is, you have to prove that you're responsible. You have to earn their trust, and you do this with your actions. Understandably, you're still young and it's okay to have a good time. But if you want your parents to give you more freedom and responsibility, you need to prove that you're able to handle this.
2. Take the Initiative with Little Things
The best way to convince your parents that you can handle more responsibility is to take the initiative with little things. In other words, don't wait until your parents tell you to clean your room and do chores around the house. If you see something that needs to be done, do it. This can include taking the initiative and following a recipe and preparing dinner, or maybe sorting the laundry or cleaning out the garage.
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3. Gain Their Trust by Obeying Rules
Earning your parents' trust takes time, especially if you've made big mistakes in the past. One of the best ways to gain their trust is by obeying their rules. Regardless of how old-fashioned or outdated your parents' rules may seem, it's their house. So if your father says be home by 11 PM, don't come walking in the door at 11:10 PM or 11:30 PM.
4. Don't Hang out with Reckless People
If your family doesn't trust your friends, they might question your activity when you're hanging out with them. Have a heart-to-heart with your parents and ask how they feel about your association. Your parents may feel your friends are rude or a bad influence. Consider whether their concerns are valid, and if so, it might be time to choose a different set of friends.
5. Avoid Doing Things Your Parents Don't like
Maybe your parents have made it clear what they like and what they don't like. If you repeatedly ignore their feelings on certain subjects, it might be harder for your folks to let go and give you more freedom.
6. Show Parents You're Capable of Taking Care of Yourself
If your mom cooks every meal for you, does your laundry and cleans your room, don't expect your parents to give you more responsibility. In their eyes, you can't even take care of yourself. This all goes back to taking the initiative. Get a part-time job as soon as you're old enough and purchase your own clothes and pay your own cell bill.
7. Keep Your Cool when Upset
Your parents, your siblings and your friends are going to get on your nerves from time to time. Regardless of whether you're right, always maintain your cool. Being able to stay calm under pressure is a sign of maturity, and if you can show that you're mature, it'll be easier for your parents to give you more freedom and responsibility.
Growing up is hard, especially if your parents continually treat you like a little kid. But as you mature and become more independent, your parents will realize you're becoming an adult who can handle more responsibility. What are other ways to convince your parents to give you more responsibility?
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Zanna: @Kendall Well, it's the best job I've ever had! It's also the hardest! And every meal is like a party!
Kendall: Such a good article!! My mom has taken away my ability to text without asking her it's and this will definitely help!
Cindy: Great article!
I: #6 Yes this is very important. If your mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, or anyone who takes care of you make them a small little card or a gift for them even if your a kid try this and use your own savings if you want to show that your more responsible than your parents think. You could also ask to help with laundry or to help cook dinner your choice. There is so many things you can do to show that you are more responsible. Parents show this to your kids it could really help them learn that they can do the smallest things that can make a big difference. Thank you for reading.
Kendall: Thanks, @Zanna! Wow, I can't imagine what having three girls and only ONE boy would be like!!!
I: #5 I was a home schooled child so I was playing Minecraft and talking to strangers and I knew I would be caught but, I still did it anyway. That lead to me getting in trouble like 5 times in 1 month. I hope this teaches kids who are looking to be better to not lie and trust you parents decision. Parents if you see this show your kids this it might help them understand what and what not to do. Thank for reading my message
Zanna: @Kendall, yes this is a good article. Take it from me, a mother of three girls and a boy. When my kids show me how responsible they are and how well they communicate, and when they're not sneaky, they get lots of privileges. When they let their grades slip or show disrespect or lie, privileges are taken away. They so enjoy their privileges that they rarely blow it! Keeps he whole family happy!
Gianna: Good Advice!
Kendall: *first
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