Do you know where you stand with your man? You don't want to assume that your relationship is heading toward marriage when he's just looking for a fling. That's why it's important to talk to him to really define the relationship. Of course, if you don't want to ask, you can probably figure it out on your own. Here are a few of the major differences between having a boyfriend and having a serious boyfriend:
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1. He’s Bought You Flowers Vs He’s Bought You Tampons
A good boyfriend will buy you flowers randomly, just to make you smile. He might even come home with a pack of your favorite candy. However, a serious boyfriend will go the extra mile. He'll push aside his embarrassment and buy you tampons or pads. He'll never get the wrong ones, either, because he knows exactly what brand you use.2. You've Used His Bed Vs You've Used His Toilet
You might've slept over your boyfriend's house a few times. That means you're used to using his pillows and blankets. However, if you're serious with him, then you've probably used his toilet to do more than just pee. Unless you're in a serious relationship, you wouldn't risk stinking up his bathroom.Frequently asked questions
3. If He Knows Your Dreams Vs if He Knows Your Flaws
A regular boyfriend will know what you want to do with your life. However, a serious boyfriend will know more than that. He'll also know about all of your "flaws," because he'll witness them firsthand. Of course, he won't consider them flaws, because he'll love even the most awkward parts of you.4. He’s Seen You Naked Vs He’s Seen You without Makeup
It's one thing to let your boyfriend see you naked. It's completely different to let him see you without makeup--or even worse, with your acne cream on. If he's seen that, you two are definitely serious.5. He’s Met Your Friends Vs He Knows Secrets about Your Friends
A regular boyfriend will know the names of all of your friends. He might even consider them to be friends of his own. However, a serious boyfriend will know every last detail about your friends, because you'll always talk to him about them. He knows things that he never even wanted to know.6. You Know His Schedule Vs You Know His Passwords
A regular boyfriend will know what days you're free and what days you have to work. However, a serious boyfriend will know the password to your phone's lock screen, and will know where you store the extra key to your house. There won't be any secrets between the two of you.7. He Plans Next Week's Dates with You Vs He Plans Years into the Future
This is the biggest difference of all between a regular boyfriend and a serious boyfriend. A regular boyfriend will make plans with you for next week. However, a serious boyfriend will make plans with you for ten years down the road. He'll talk to you about kid names and apartment locations.***
A serious boyfriend will be more invested in the relationship and will be more likely to stick with it for the long haul. He will be more likely to communicate his feelings and talk about his hopes and dreams for the future. He will be more likely to be open and honest with you, and he will be more likely to make plans for the future together. He will also be more likely to be supportive and understanding of your needs and wants. He will also be more likely to be willing to compromise and work together to make the relationship work. A serious boyfriend is someone who is committed to making the relationship work and is willing to put in the effort to make it last.
8. He Tells You about Big Decisions He Has to Make Vs He Consults You with Big Decisions He Has to Make
A good boyfriend will tell you about the things that are going on in his life but a serious boyfriend will talk to you about the big things. He will allow you to give your opinion so that you two can make an informed decision together.9. You Sleep over at His Place a Lot Vs He Has Space for Your Things at His Place
Spending days or weeks on end together at a boyfriend's place is a great thing. But if he's setting aside a drawer or other space in his home for you to keep your items, he's a keeper.10. He's There for All the Good Times Vs He's There for All the Bad Times
When you're together, it's absolutely amazing. He's seen you during all of your fantastic moments. But if he's there for you when times are tough, he's definitely serious boyfriend material.11. He Knows Your Interests Vs He Participates in Your Interests
He knows that you love photography, pop music, and watching old films, but a serious boyfriend initiates doing these activities with you. He wants to experience things that make you smile.12. You Calls You Beautiful Vs He Makes You Feel Beautiful
Actions speak louder than words. While we all love to be called beautiful, it is also the way in which a guy makes us feel that can determine whether he's a serious boyfriend or not.13. He's Met Your Family Vs He Keeps in Contact and Makes an Effort with Your Family
He's met your family over holidays or big events, but a serious relationship means he keeps in regular contact with your family members and shows a genuine interest in your family.14. He Always Makes You Feel Better Vs He Makes You Better
When you're having a bad day, he's there to cheer you up. But if he encourages you to be a better version of yourself and to achieve your goals, he's making you a better person.15. He Simply Listens when You're Being Irrational Vs He Calls You out when You're Being Irrational
A serious boyfriend is a great listener but also has the ability to tell you things openly and honestly. If you're being irrational - he should be able to tell you.Your boyfriend could always turn into your serious boyfriend, so you shouldn't worry if he doesn't currently do everything on this list. You have plenty of time to grow as a couple. After reading this, do you think you have a boyfriend or a serious boyfriend?
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Alyx: I feel like I'm the odd one out who was happy when my parents separated. They fought a lot and werent happy together, and I just wanted them to be happy. I was 8 and I was like "Yeah, that's a good idea because you fight a lot and I don't think you are happy anymore" when they told me about it. I don't get why people freak out over it, but there's a lot of things I'm sensitive about that others aren't so I guess it's just a thing.
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peony: @alison as always you have said this with such candour. My parents are still together so I am not aware of what it would be like if one's parents divorced but your post puts it into perspective.
Ellzelly: My parents are separating and I know it is for the vest but my heart is breaking. My dad is moving away and I want to cling to him, I don't want to not be able to see him everyday. My mum is currently abroad and will come home to find that he is moving out and her world will be turned upside down. I mean they discussed divorce before she left but she tends to bury her head in the sand. I don't know what to do
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